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Thursday, January 28, 2010

You can take the girl out of Boulder...

Growing up in Boulder, Colorado I never fit in. I hated snow and cold and felt like the only person for miles and miles who passionately hated Tevas, North Face gear and tie dye (my apologies to my good fairy friend NakedJen), I truly thought that all clergy members wore Birkenstocks with socks, because that is totally what every minister I had encountered at that time wore (Until I joined the LDS Church when I was 16 and then later left,which is another post for another time but my experience was completely positive. But yeah...not a lot of Mormon Bishops rocking the Birks at Sacrament meeting). As soon as High School was over I got the heck out of dodge. (We're all pretending the embarrassing bit where I came back for like 5 weeks for a boy didn't happen, ok? Ah. The humiliation of youth, or is it the blind faith?)
When I got to California it was like I was reborn...all the things that made me a freak in Colorado, the wacky sense of humor, the offbeat fashion sense, the affinity for humongous Jackie-O shades and the desire to wear high heels to school every day now made me well, fascinating. There were many girls who I admired who had 17 years of California-ness on me and who had simply bloomed under the freedom to accessorize and costume how they saw fit.
It was heaven.
Oh yeah, I was still a train wreck in certain areas and continued to be (hmpf. I'm going with past tense it's my blog!) for quite a while. Not ingesting any food for years on end can make a gal a little nutty. (See above where I moved back to Colorado for a boy) But I digress.

Quelle Surprise!

I found my footing in California, especially in Los Angeles and when Dub moved to LA it was even better! Dub, who had let me braid ribbons in her hair as 1st graders and also wore her slip on the outside while playing Little House on the Prairie  now was living not only in the same city as me, but the same apartment! It was as if all our let's pretend games in our childhood had come true.
Heather was the first person I told I was pregnant  (I mean other than Zach and Gaily-O who helped decipher the very first oh-so-faint-test.) and she immediatly said "are you craving anything?" I told her OJ which is so weird because I didn't like OJ before this. Dub said "oh thank God! I must be having sympathy cravings because I can't get enough OJ!" I inquired if perhaps she too could be with child. She instantly poo-poohed the idea but a mere two days later she called me to inform me that she was all knocked up! WHOOHOOOOO!! We've gone through this before together, of course. We were 7 and both pregnant with Cabbage Patch kids at the time, and we lived in a cute little condo (aka my front porch) I do believe she was married to Rob Lowe and I was married to Michael J Fox...or I was married to Rob Lowe and she was married to Michael J Fox. Whatever.
Heather is, well truly graceful and just friggin lovely. I'm crazy jealous of it. Every boyfriend I ever had in high school eventually uttered the magic words: why can't you be more like Heather?

Dude. Like I hadn't been asking myself that on the daily since I was 3.

Heather of course, handled pregnancy with such glowing grace while I meanwhile quickly resembled Jabba the Hut and never stopped puking long enough to get any glow. How one can gain as much as I did whilst puking for 9 months is beyond me, but oh well! Heather wanted natural childbirth (me too!) she walked and did yoga (I hobbled and layed on the couch with a trash can nearby watching Law and Order), she planned on nursing and...what? Umm. No thanks. I was NO on breastfeeding. It just seemed kinda icky and I am not too touchy feely to begin with..so no.

But Heather was doing it.

When we were 11 Heather and I spent every morning up on my roof suntanning. Of course we got stuck on the roof one day and Heather actually got stuck half on and half off, sort of hanging off the roof almost to the fence stuck and kinda scared. (I would have been too!) Obviously in this instance I was the one who had come up with the brilliant plan and thus I was the one in trouble. Dub's mom asked the age old question:
If Stephanie jumped off a bridge would you? 11 year old Dub just looked at her and said 'Duh."

So if Heather is breastfeeding...then so am I!

Heather had Zu 6 whole days before Max joined us so I got to watch Dub get her nursing groove on before I had to awkwardly attempt to imitate her innate motherliness. And she was indeed, a natural.

Who would have thought it, but so was I! Max and I took to nursing like a duck takes to water, and I never looked back. Max is 18 months old now and we're still going strong. I've nursed at IKEA, at the National Cathedral, on airplanes, in restaurants, basically anywhere my kid needs to eat...I feed him! It's easier now of course, with sippies of hormone free organic milk and yummy biscuits. I find that even though I left Boulder long ago...I am still buying local grown organic veggies and fruits for Max. He eats whole grains and fresh avacado almost daily, I search for organic materials for his clothes. I have been a vegetarian for a hundred years and I am raising Max to eat healthily and cruelty free. His clothes are washed in cruelty free, dye free, perfume free detergent.

I'm a freaking Boulderite after all.

6 week old Max, looking for lunch

But I am NEVER wearing Birkenstocks.


Anonymous said...

Holy crap your life sounds eerily like mine, except for having the baby part. I grew up HATING Vermont. As soon as I graduated I moved as far away as possible (Hawaii), only to return a semester later FOR A BOY (dumb). But I returned to Hawaii a year later.
I thought I wasn't anything like most the people I grew up with (all those folks who couldn't leave VT). But I'm finding out I'm a whole lot more like a Vermonter than I thought.
I admit it. I'll always be a Hippie Vermonter at heart, even living in NYC hasn't changed that (the idea of nannies freaks me out, I'll take care of my own kids THANK YOU, or else they're going to day care to learn how to socialize like I did). And when I have kids I want be organic, breast feed, have it in a tub (I'm not sure about cloth diapers...).

Janice said...

I nursed all four of my kids and had no problem doing it anywhere. Anytime I did it, my husband would say, "You can take the girl out of Boulder . . ."

Sarah said...

Never say never! LOL OK that was just mean. I would never give up my heels and flipflops for Birks! NEVER So I totally understand. :)

Jenny Robbins said...

Stopping by from SITS! I lived in Idaho when I went to college for a couple of semesters. But when they were done I came back home on my break.....never to return. It's the only time I've ever lived out of state. I actually like Washington, but my hometown left me wanting. Something about the water always brings people back. My husband and I finally got our little hinies outta there and moved to a bigger area. I cannot say that I miss it. : )

Tracie said...

I grew up in a very small town in WV and hated every minute of it. I longed to live somewhere urban - preferably NYC.

Years later, here I sit in a small southern town. Different state but same vibe. And I'm ok with it. Mostly.

Salt said...

It's nice to hear from another person who went through the whole 'nursing is icky' thing. Because I've finally started getting over it enough that I will likely be totally cool with it once I have a child, but for the longest time I just wasn't. And people like my mom gave me so much crap for it.

That is so neat that you have had such a great friendship with someone for that long and that Zu and Max are so close in age!

Christian Mommy Writer said...

I've never been to Boulder, Col. Lol about the Birkenstocks!

Thanks for visiting me on my SITS day!

Veronica Lee said...

I've never been to Boulder either!

Have a great weekend!!!